The Lounge Q+A: Kenlyn Kolleen, Life Coach

This must be a very generative time for you given what we’ve all been through over the last year. I’m sure your people are texting you off the hook. I think we’re all doing a lot of inner work voluntarily or involuntarily. Are you seeing a lot of people who might not otherwise have reached out to you, folks who are at an inflection point?

Oh yeah, no doubt. No doubt that 2020 was so important for all of us on the level of consciousness. It’s been a massive reboot. It’s wobbly right now. Our consciousness is unstable. It’s the way of it. We are looking at a future that we have never seen before. On all levels. I mean, technologically, it has been like we’ve been eating baby food. The next advances will be really huge. This will happen in the technological arena and in our consciousness. So yes, we’re seeing people wake up. I’m seeing my mom interested in these conversations. How many mothers are actually reading books and then they’re telling you, “Oh, guess what?” And you’re like, “Yeah, I told you that like 10 years ago but …”? It’s like they’re coming along. They’re discovering a totale. They’re watching Super Soul Sunday and Oprah. Whatever it is and whatever it takes. Our job as leaders is to bring them into the fold and really elevate as quickly as possible because there’s so much. Here’s the thing about spirituality. When you talk about that piece being a business woman, you get to find that on the inside, and it’s yoga. Yoga means union with. It’s a constant interplay of who I’m being in the world and what I’m creating in the world. But we’re going to get a chance to experience our super powers in a way that we have never experienced ourselves as humans before, ever. That’s so exciting and the way that that happens is if enough of us are at a frequency level that creates. Think about the goddess. She just keeps creating and unfolding herself. There’s no end game to it.

Yeah, my older brother was into exploring inner work and deep, deep thinking. He always talked about this concept of collective consciousness. So as we all emerge, that’s what pushes us forward as humanity. Right? When enough of us say, “This is where we need to be. This is the new norm.” That’s what pushes us forward. I love that you use the term superpowers. Can you share with us, I’m sure you have endless numbers of these, but can you share with us one transformation story that really touched you?

Certainly, witnessing clients as they start to work with me and then who they’re becoming as they end. Most of my terms are six months, but a couple of clients have been with me for three years. Just witnessing the level of growth that happens in the spaces in between. Growth is not from your brain. It’s from your mind, from what you think you know. It’s in the conversation, in these spaces in between, and in such a deep place of our heart. So witnessing clients that had really codependent relationships come out of them. I have a client who’s 32 just owning her power and now she’s becoming a coach and a teacher. Really, the blossoming of her gifts are coming online and that makes me so happy. Some of my clients make their money back from coaching in the first 30 days because they’re ready and they just need that focus and direction.

I’m shocked that six months is a typical term for you because this seems like a lifelong journey. Given the areas of work that you do with folks, it’s like, “We’re going to be together forever.” How do you get folks ready in six months? There seems to be so much work that needs to be done.

It’s not going to be only through one person. Here’s the thing. I work with women leaders. In my summit, for example, I have 19 women leaders that I’m working with. Often, a lot of my clients work with several of them. People who are hungry and on the spiritual path, do multiple things. I think that a 12-month program is probably going to be my future, but I don’t go less than six because I know that right around three months, we’re just getting started. The mind likes to shorten everything, but it’s like giving it the space. Even the Dalai Lama says, “You all want to be enlightened so fast.”

That’s exactly the point. Right?

The truth is that consciousness is exponential right now. So it is going really fast and we can get a lot done in six months and we can get a lot done in 12 months. It’s just to stay the course. If that speaks to you or anyone else, it’s just a matter of staying the course.

If I think about people listening to this, I think everyone has people in their lives who they coach and they mentor and who look to them for inspiration whether they feel inspired or not. I think when people think about, “Wow, building a business out of this? Who would hire me as a client? Who would seek me out and pay me to do this?” I noticed in your practice that you actually help people build communities. Can you speak a little bit about that?

Yeah, that’s really great. I feel like everyone starting has that thought, like, “Who am I?” That’s sort of one of the great lies of the old era that’s getting broken down. Because, if you notice, there are people behind you, always. There’s people in front of you, always. Longer on their spiritual path, more advanced in their maturity. So what we get to do is work with where we are and discover. You’ve heard this if you’re a coach or in this business. You’ve heard of the term of your ideal client avatar. We work so deeply with your avatar because once you know who it is you’re helping and who it is you’re passionate about serving, then that voice in your head about, “Who am I?”, goes away. Because you realize, “Oh yeah, I could have totally used a coach when I was at that part of my journey, at that age. Oh my God. It would have made everything so much more simple. Instead, I took 20 years to figure it out myself.” Frankly, we don’t have time for that. We can implode the planet in that kind of time. So we don’t have time for that. We got everybody to get like, “Okay, get activated and do what you can do.” Then I think it brings tremendous joy. I hear back from my clients and I know for myself that it makes a lot of that pain and suffering that we went through really worthwhile so that we can pay it forward.

I totally got the concept of coaching right from the beginning. It might have something to do with my last name. It’s Onyeagoro. In Igbo, it means “Who will be my witness?” I see a coach as a witness. They’re a witness to your life, to your successes, to your challenges. They’re also someone who kind of helps you think through how to persevere. So I totally get it. I’d love for you to share for people who aren’t aware of PocketSuite what PocketSuite has meant to you, your business, and your journey.

Oh, I’d love to. Yeah, I recommend PocketSuite to all of my U.S. clients who are starting businesses. I think I’ve been with you almost from the beginning. My favorite thing about PocketSuite is that you do the three-in-one. Because I have a law background, but it’s more than that really. I love agreements and the payment processing, and the calendar, that’s my three-in-one that are absolutely essential to my business. The agreements, not so much so that I can enforce them in court because I wasn’t a court lawyer, I was a contracts lawyer. What I love about it is that when I onboard a client everything happens on that call. So because of the technology, I just shoot them over the agreement and I actually go through it with them point by point by point. I ask questions so that it’s not a scary thing, but we have a meeting of the minds. PocketSuite’s technology allows them to go through it as I’m going through it on the phone or Zoom with them. Then they sign it with their finger. So it is done. Then I take payment and I schedule their first call all in the same call. I have no leaky boundaries. I have a container and the person feels my leadership. They feel held inside that container. The technology is what enables that to happen. If I didn’t have that it would be like sending it through email and then trying to follow up for weeks, “Did you get that thing signed? Did you get that thing signed?” That’s just, it’s not where the coaching needs to be. The coaching needs to be on the person and what they’re wanting to cause and create for themselves. So technology has just been a game changer. So thank you.

Well, thank you. I love the fact that you add that human element to it. So it’s not, “I’m going to send it over and leave you with it. I’m going to send it over and I’m going to explain and help you understand so we can move to that next step.” Kenlyn, you’re an inspiration. Thank you so much for everything you do in the PocketSuite community and everything you do for your broader community.

Oh, thank you so much. It’s been great. Blessings to you all.